Attachment theory may sound very scientific and boring to many parents. But in fact, it is quite interesting, because it tells us that forming a strong relationship with your child is essential for their healthy development.
Every mother and father should study this theory, at least briefly, to understand the importance of secure attachment in their baby's life.
Therefore, this theory is one of the most popular above all, related to parenting and, of course, to Attachment Parenting.
Basically, it explains about parent-child relationship and how it influences child's development. It is as simple as it gets: your baby needs to develop a relationship with you in order to grow healthy.
Psychiatrist John Bowlby is the founder of Attachment Theory. He believed that attachment begins at birth and has tremendous impact throughout life.
The main theme of Attachment Theory is that mothers who are available and responsive to their infant's needs establish a sense of security in their children. The infant knows that the caregiver is dependable, which creates a secure base for the child to explore the surroundings.
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Attachment is a bond between you and your baby.
The moment your baby is born, he starts teaching you how to know what he needs. We, as parents, try to learn their cues and wishes so we can provide whatever care they need at any moment in their lives.
By doing that, we also teach our babies about world around them. Of course this 2-way journey doesn’t happen overnight, but it is very important for baby’s future development and life.
Read here to learn more about how to create a secure attachment bond with your child.
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Psychologist Mary Ainsworth continued on John Bowlby’s work by revealing stunning “strange situation” study, which later resulted 4 Attachment patterns (styles).
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1. Secure Attachment.
2. Ambivalent Attachment.
3. Avoidant Attachment.
4. Disorganized-insecure attachment.
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Attachment theory plays a very important role in parenting, especially Attachment Parenting.
Just imagine, that about 50-60 years ago people thought that sensitive care or even caring for your own child would harm them, turn them into spoiled, sick and nonfunctional human beings.
Thanks to Bowlby's theory we know that Secure attachment causes the parts of your baby’s brain responsible for social and emotional development, communication, and relationships to grow and develop in the best way possible. This relationship becomes the foundation of your child’s ability to connect with others in a healthy way.
Watch this informative video about the importance of Attachment in children.
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Attachment theory plays
an important role in adult relationship
The mother-child attachment bond shapes child’s brain, which influences his self-esteem, expectations of others, and ability to attract and maintain successful adult relationships.
According to the study, there is a link between how couple’s deal with conflicts and their attachment patterns when they were infants.
theory describes the dynamics of long-term relationships between humans
especially as in families and life-long friends. Its most important
tenet is that an infant needs to develop a relationship with at least
one primary caregiver for social and emotional development to occur
normally, and that further relationships build on the patterns developed
in the first relationships.”
A person, who was securely attached to his parents when he was a baby, was better at recovering from conflict 20 years later.
It means that if a parent is better at regulating infant's negative emotions, he (child) tends to do a better job of regulating his own negative emotions during conflicts as an adult.
It is great to feel that we, as parents, can play such an important role in shaping our children’s future successful adult relationships.
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Have you ever thought why you are the way you are?
To better understand the importance of secure attachment let's look at what kind of attachment do you have.
These attachment patterns are based on the work of Kim Bartholomew.
Secure Attachment (low avoidance, low anxiety)
Preoccupied Attachment (low avoidance, high anxiety)
Dismissing-Avoidant (high avoidance, low anxiety)
Fearful-Avoidant (high avoidance, high anxiety)
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We live in a fast paced life. We want to go to work and have a good career, but we want to be good parents as well. The big question for many new parents is should/when I go back to work...
As this is very individual issue; every family should make a decision themselves.
However, keep in mind that a child should get maximum of mother's care for the first 2 years of his life. The more you spend time with your child, the better for him.
An infant instinctively behaves in many ways to maintain close to his mother and feels most secure when he is near her.
According to Bowlby’s theory mothering is almost useless, if delayed until after two and a half to three years and, for most children, if delayed till after 12 months.
If the attachment figure is broken or disrupted during the critical two year period the child will suffer irreversible long-term consequences of this maternal deprivation. This risks continues until the age of 5.
John Bowlby believed that the relationship between the infant and his mother during the first five years of life was most crucial to socialization. He believed that disruption of this primary relationship could lead to emotional difficulties and antisocial behavior.
To support his hypothesis, he studied 44 adolescent juvenile delinquents in a child guidance clinic.
"The most important spiritual message you can give to infants during the first year:
Please remember: It's all just theory, not everything will fit the big picture.
Parenting is not a simple thing to do, especially when parents are attacked with parenting advices and fashions and headline-grabbing “experts”, who may or may not have scientific explanation.
Parents should grow their own unique relationship with their kids, relying on their intuition, not some new parenting fashions.
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Egeland B, Hiester M. The long-term consequences of infant day-care and mother-infant attachment. [PubMed]
Waters E, Cummings EM. A secure base from which to explore close relationships. [PubMed]
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